A reader recently wrote in to suggest that maybe I should tap positive statements rather than focusing on the problem. I'm so glad you wrote in because this very topic has been the subject of many a conversation - both with myself in my own mind and with many clients.
As any long-time student of the Law of Attraction knows, you're supposed to put your attention on what you want, NOT what you don't want. And yet, EFT (a.k.a. tapping) always has you create a set-up statement that identifies the problem. AND we're supposed to tap, while repeating the problem. Now it is important to note that the set-up statement is supposed to be created in such a way that the problem is ALWAYS balanced out with a positive affirmation.
For a while I had trouble reconciling my law of attraction studies with the EFT modality, where one deliberate puts attention on what they don't want in order to clear its energy.
I'm certainly not an expert on EFT, but for now, I've reconciled this seeming paradox in the following way: We draw into our lives the physical equivalent of our VIBRATION. For this reason, affirmation don't always work. If our vibration is not in alignment with our words, the affirmation is useless (for more information on creating affirmations that REALLY work keep an eye out for my soon-to-be-released home study program: How to Get Results with the Law of Attraction TM).
When we create our set up statement our intention and our vibration is in alignment with healing. And so, our consciousness is in alignment with the benefit of tapping on the appropriate meridians.
I've order all the EFT training cds, but haven't had a chance to watch them all yet. Anyone who has wisdom to offer on the subject, please do!
What I can say is that tapping works for many. I'm still experimenting with it. Sometimes it seems to work in profound ways, other times not. For this reason, I've long been a fan of the deeper origin work that I've studies and use in my practice. Modalities like: Dynamic Energetic Healing, the Yuen Method, and Resonance Repatterning to name a few.
The journey continues.
Choose Your Reality!
Sonia
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Sunday, October 7, 2007
Sunday, September 9, 2007
EXPERIMENT: 6 Pounds and Still Tapping
Well, slowly but surely, I seem to be losing weight, and more importantly feeling more and more free of behaviors and habits that I've struggled with.
I've discovered that as I keep tapping, new insights, new levels of awareness about the underlying emotions and thoughts surface. As they do, I tap on those.
For example, even though it should have been obvious to me, the other day it "dawned" on me that I eat at night to relax. I knew that, but it never occurred to tap on that. So, I did...
Even though I use food to relax, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I use food to relax, I'm ready to feel calm and relaxed without food.
Even though I use food to relax, I choose to feel calm and confident.
That night I found that I didn't feel the urge to eat to unwind.
I've also been tapping on things other than food and body issues and experience a significant decrease in intensity. Just simple things that can cause stress come way down.
More to follow.
Choose Your Reality,
Sonia
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I've discovered that as I keep tapping, new insights, new levels of awareness about the underlying emotions and thoughts surface. As they do, I tap on those.
For example, even though it should have been obvious to me, the other day it "dawned" on me that I eat at night to relax. I knew that, but it never occurred to tap on that. So, I did...
Even though I use food to relax, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I use food to relax, I'm ready to feel calm and relaxed without food.
Even though I use food to relax, I choose to feel calm and confident.
That night I found that I didn't feel the urge to eat to unwind.
I've also been tapping on things other than food and body issues and experience a significant decrease in intensity. Just simple things that can cause stress come way down.
More to follow.
Choose Your Reality,
Sonia
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www.SuccessForTheSoul.com OR www.SoniaMillersSoulFoodEzine.com
Monday, September 3, 2007
EXPERIMENT - 1 Month of Tapping - Results and Insights
Well, it has been one month now of tapping and here's the latest.
-I've lost about 5 pounds and the only thing that has really changed is that my night-time eating has greatly reduced. Other than that I eat 3 sensible meals a day. If I'm hungry in the afternoon, I'll have some fruit.
-I have gone through periods of no tapping. My eating behavior would remain unchanged for a while and then I'd have a "relapse" where I was relying on willpower and feeling urges to eat at night when not hungry. When this happened, I went back to tapping first thing in the morning and before dinner.
-With the compulsive behavior more at bay, new insights into the emotional energy beneath them have revealed themselves: sadness, loneliness, some fear. The neat thing is that with the behavior at bay, my other self-nurturing tools have pushed to the surface. I'm meditating more, walking more, and reconnecting with my love of music more.
-As limiting thoughts and emotions come up, I tap on them.
-Even though I hate dieting I completely and deeply accept myself
-Even though the weightloss is too slow, I deeply and completely...
-Even though I'm afraid I'll lose control when my regular routine is disrupted, I'm ready to be calm, confident and grounded in my commitment to health and well-being.
The kids go back to school this week and I'm really looking forward to getting back into my early morning walking routine.
My food/body goal is:
To 100% heal the last vestige of emotional eating and experience long-term and permanent weightloss (about 10-15 lbs.), so that I reach my healthy optimum goal weight in a natural and joyful way!
Choose Your Reality!
Sonia
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-I've lost about 5 pounds and the only thing that has really changed is that my night-time eating has greatly reduced. Other than that I eat 3 sensible meals a day. If I'm hungry in the afternoon, I'll have some fruit.
-I have gone through periods of no tapping. My eating behavior would remain unchanged for a while and then I'd have a "relapse" where I was relying on willpower and feeling urges to eat at night when not hungry. When this happened, I went back to tapping first thing in the morning and before dinner.
-With the compulsive behavior more at bay, new insights into the emotional energy beneath them have revealed themselves: sadness, loneliness, some fear. The neat thing is that with the behavior at bay, my other self-nurturing tools have pushed to the surface. I'm meditating more, walking more, and reconnecting with my love of music more.
-As limiting thoughts and emotions come up, I tap on them.
-Even though I hate dieting I completely and deeply accept myself
-Even though the weightloss is too slow, I deeply and completely...
-Even though I'm afraid I'll lose control when my regular routine is disrupted, I'm ready to be calm, confident and grounded in my commitment to health and well-being.
The kids go back to school this week and I'm really looking forward to getting back into my early morning walking routine.
My food/body goal is:
To 100% heal the last vestige of emotional eating and experience long-term and permanent weightloss (about 10-15 lbs.), so that I reach my healthy optimum goal weight in a natural and joyful way!
Choose Your Reality!
Sonia
For more FREE articles and resources go to: www.SuccessForTheSoul.com
Sunday, August 12, 2007
EXPERIMENT: Day 8 of Tapping - Profound Results!
Well, I've been tapping for eight days on food and body issues. My greatest area of challenge was going to be night time eating and I'm just blown away with my experience thus far. I hadn't even received Carol Look's program yet, "The Key to Successful Weight Loss: How to Conquer Emotional Overeating." Just been tapping on my own, making tapping my FIRST and ONLY line of defense with food and body issues - throwing out all other weightloss strategies. No plans, no calories, no diets, minimal scale usage. My plan: Tap on anything and everything that brings up stress, doubt, worry, concern, anxiety, or discouragement regarding food and body and TAP.
I've been tapping first thing in the morning for the day ahead, right before dinner as "preventive medicine" for potential eating triggers, and as needed for cravings (maybe only 3 times in 8 days).
The following statements capture the emotions, thoughts, and beliefs that have been my areas of struggle:
Even though I'm afraid I'll lose control with night time eating, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I think I can't go out to eat and still lose weight, I deeply...
Even though the thought of giving up sugary treats feels like a loss to me...
Even though I think I can't ENJOY my meals and lose weight, I deeply...
Even though I think that successful and permanent weight loss means that I will lose the pleasure and fun of food, I deeply...
Even though I don't trust myself to do what it takes to lose weight and maintain it, I deeply...
Even though I'm afraid I'll sabotage my progress, I deeply...
Even though I don't trust myself to LET myself have the body I want, I deeply...
Well, amazing things have happened. Night time has been a completely different experience. I have had a reasonable after dinner treat each night (at home and at a restaurant) and then felt COMPLETE. No urge to keep eating, no willpower, no struggle. Oh yes! My mind has been watching and asking, "Can this be real? Am I willing myself not to eat?" But the reality is that I've felt calm. I've understood that I could eat if I wanted to, but have felt no need."
Additionally, I've been going to sleep earlier. In the past my night time ritual was eat dinner, then munch in front of the t.v. and there was always the feeling of "this is my time to escape, this my "me" time." It was as if I'd go into hiding at night.
At about day 4 I realized that first my behavior was changing, but on day 4 when I felt no need to eat at night and went to bed tired and looking forward to a real night's sleep, I lay awake in bed and several waves of emotions and thoughts came upon me. I tapped on each layer as it revealed itself.
1st layer: I'm working too much. I'm not spending quality time with my kids. I'm not appreciating the time I have with them. I don't know how to cherish the moments. Tapped. Released. Then..
2nd layer: I'm sad. I feel lonely. Why? Tapped on sad and lonely. Realized that these feelings had always fueled my binge/purge episodes in the days of my active bulimic behavior. I further realized that in later years, I had dismissed that this could still be present because, "how could I be sad and lonely? I have a beautiful, loving family, friends, and community. There's no way I could be sad and lonely." But the truth was that I have been, even if it felt completely irrational.
Drawing on other healing modalities to identify the origin, I connected with the knowledge that one can be sad and lonely regardless of the conditions in their lives AND that I've been carrying the experience of "sad and lonely little girl" since I was eight. Tapped. Released. Finally fell asleep.
The next day I woke up feeling light and peaceful. Really looking forward to spending quality time with my kids. Had a great day wtih them. And the slightly obsessive energy that I normally felt around my work had calmed down. I still LOVE what I do, but the energy feels like a clean passion without the "obsessive" quality.
I had many more aha's but I'll stop here for now. The most amazing thing here is the result I'm experiencing in my relationship with food. Eating healthfully, feeling like I am in CHOICE, rather than reactivity, no addictive feelings, no cravings. And I'm already feeling more comfortable and lighter in my clothes.
Time to check out Carol Look's Program and see where that takes me!
Choose Your Reality!
Sonia
For more FREE articles and resources go to: http://www.successforthesoul.com/
I've been tapping first thing in the morning for the day ahead, right before dinner as "preventive medicine" for potential eating triggers, and as needed for cravings (maybe only 3 times in 8 days).
The following statements capture the emotions, thoughts, and beliefs that have been my areas of struggle:
Even though I'm afraid I'll lose control with night time eating, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I think I can't go out to eat and still lose weight, I deeply...
Even though the thought of giving up sugary treats feels like a loss to me...
Even though I think I can't ENJOY my meals and lose weight, I deeply...
Even though I think that successful and permanent weight loss means that I will lose the pleasure and fun of food, I deeply...
Even though I don't trust myself to do what it takes to lose weight and maintain it, I deeply...
Even though I'm afraid I'll sabotage my progress, I deeply...
Even though I don't trust myself to LET myself have the body I want, I deeply...
Well, amazing things have happened. Night time has been a completely different experience. I have had a reasonable after dinner treat each night (at home and at a restaurant) and then felt COMPLETE. No urge to keep eating, no willpower, no struggle. Oh yes! My mind has been watching and asking, "Can this be real? Am I willing myself not to eat?" But the reality is that I've felt calm. I've understood that I could eat if I wanted to, but have felt no need."
Additionally, I've been going to sleep earlier. In the past my night time ritual was eat dinner, then munch in front of the t.v. and there was always the feeling of "this is my time to escape, this my "me" time." It was as if I'd go into hiding at night.
At about day 4 I realized that first my behavior was changing, but on day 4 when I felt no need to eat at night and went to bed tired and looking forward to a real night's sleep, I lay awake in bed and several waves of emotions and thoughts came upon me. I tapped on each layer as it revealed itself.
1st layer: I'm working too much. I'm not spending quality time with my kids. I'm not appreciating the time I have with them. I don't know how to cherish the moments. Tapped. Released. Then..
2nd layer: I'm sad. I feel lonely. Why? Tapped on sad and lonely. Realized that these feelings had always fueled my binge/purge episodes in the days of my active bulimic behavior. I further realized that in later years, I had dismissed that this could still be present because, "how could I be sad and lonely? I have a beautiful, loving family, friends, and community. There's no way I could be sad and lonely." But the truth was that I have been, even if it felt completely irrational.
Drawing on other healing modalities to identify the origin, I connected with the knowledge that one can be sad and lonely regardless of the conditions in their lives AND that I've been carrying the experience of "sad and lonely little girl" since I was eight. Tapped. Released. Finally fell asleep.
The next day I woke up feeling light and peaceful. Really looking forward to spending quality time with my kids. Had a great day wtih them. And the slightly obsessive energy that I normally felt around my work had calmed down. I still LOVE what I do, but the energy feels like a clean passion without the "obsessive" quality.
I had many more aha's but I'll stop here for now. The most amazing thing here is the result I'm experiencing in my relationship with food. Eating healthfully, feeling like I am in CHOICE, rather than reactivity, no addictive feelings, no cravings. And I'm already feeling more comfortable and lighter in my clothes.
Time to check out Carol Look's Program and see where that takes me!
Choose Your Reality!
Sonia
For more FREE articles and resources go to: http://www.successforthesoul.com/
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
EXPERIMENT: Tapping for Emotional Eating
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is an energy healing modality developed by Gary Craig. As he describes it, you can think of it as emotional acupuncture. The basic method involves tapping (a term you'll hear me use a lot) on specific points on your body so as to restore the natural, healthy flow of energy where blockages have ocurred due to emotional trauma. To tap, all you do is use one or two fingers and gently tap 4-9 times each on the designated points.
I ordered Carol Look's "Key to Successful Weightloss - How to Conquer Emotional Eating" and the package should be arriving any day now. This particular program is supposed to be idiot-proofed because it provides an extensive array of statements on which to tap - all related to the emotional and mental issues associated with compulsive eating, food addictions, cravings, etc.
Being an energy healer, I have a solid knowledge of EFT and so I've been tapping the last few days even without the "official program" to guide me. Energy healing has been a big part of my healing process thus far with food and body issues. And yet, I've never used EFT exclusively. My goal with this experiment is to let go of every notion I have about how I'm "supposed" to lose weight, let go of diets, let go of exercise plans, let go of all of my cause and effect thinking of the past and tap my little heart out on every limiting belief and emotional charge I can uncover.
At the height of my bulimic symptoms and compulsive eating, I was a person obsessed. This was back in the 80's. It was really quite sad, actually. From the moment I would awake, to the moment I went to bed, I would think about what I would eat, how much I'd eat, and when I would eat. It was my own secret hell. I'd make plans and promises, charts and graphs, I might keep it together for a while, but I would ultimately lose all control in a a big, shame-filled binge, all alone, at night, in front of the t.v. in hiding. My preferred method of purging was the abuse of laxatives. The next morning I would awake bloated and filled with self-loathing. Anyone who doesn't think food is a drug, should try being a bulimic for a while. Thank God that is all behind me!!! Really, THANK GOD! Wow, I haven't talked about this stuff in a looong time.
Anyway, the reason I bring it up today is that in beginning the procees of tapping and letting go of all preconceived notions about how and what I should do to lose these residual yo-yo 10+ pounds, I've really become aware of the last remaining vestiges of this addictive type of energy. My greatest challenge these days occurs for me at night with sugar.
What I've noticed is that although I can move through my day very neutral about food and body - eating sensible meals, making healthy choices easily, enjoying healthy food - when it comes to night time, a mysterious monster that lurks in my unconscious during the day takes over.
My usual ritual is to eat dinner, usually in front of the t.v. with my family. (Yes, I'm not proud to admit this. I wish I were one of those women who proudly created sit-down dinners for my family every night, but that's for another conversation...) We eat. We finish. And then "that thing" takes over. I must have my treats. I've gotten to the point that they are as healthy as possible - like no-sugar-added popsicles, sugar free popsicles or fruit. But I can get up anywhere from 4-8 times each night in search of something else to munch on. Having a full stomach has NOTHING to do with the decision making process. Finding a sense of fullness and satisfaction escapes me. And so, I've been tapping, tapping, tapping on this. I've tapped on statements like:
Even though I have to have night time treats, I absolutely love and accept myself.
Even though I can't imagine letting go of night time eating, I abolutely...
Even though just the thought of letting go of my treats makes me feel sad and empty, I asolutely..
Even though I'm addicted to sugar, I absolutely...
Even though I'm starved for something, but don't know what it is, I absolutely...
Even though I don't know how to do this, I absolutely...
Even though something takes over me and I don't know what it is, I absolutely....
Well, 3 out of the last 4 nights, the addiction energy has definitely felt lighter. Last nite I had to tap a lot, but this night, I tapped even before dinner, and I felt a noticeable diminishment in intensity.
I've also tapped regarding my inertia around physical activity and feeling unmotivated. I enjoyed some fun effortless walks and bike-rides in the last few days without making a big deal about it.
I've also tapped quite a bit on places I feel resistant around having the body I envision, letting myself, feeling like I'm not supposed to, recalling and tapping on memories from 8th grade where I compared myself to other girls and felt less than.
So, that's where I'm at for today. I look forward to getting started with Carol Look's Program.
More to follow.
Choose Your Reality!
Sonia
For more FREE resources and articles go to: www.SuccessForTheSoul.com
I ordered Carol Look's "Key to Successful Weightloss - How to Conquer Emotional Eating" and the package should be arriving any day now. This particular program is supposed to be idiot-proofed because it provides an extensive array of statements on which to tap - all related to the emotional and mental issues associated with compulsive eating, food addictions, cravings, etc.
Being an energy healer, I have a solid knowledge of EFT and so I've been tapping the last few days even without the "official program" to guide me. Energy healing has been a big part of my healing process thus far with food and body issues. And yet, I've never used EFT exclusively. My goal with this experiment is to let go of every notion I have about how I'm "supposed" to lose weight, let go of diets, let go of exercise plans, let go of all of my cause and effect thinking of the past and tap my little heart out on every limiting belief and emotional charge I can uncover.
At the height of my bulimic symptoms and compulsive eating, I was a person obsessed. This was back in the 80's. It was really quite sad, actually. From the moment I would awake, to the moment I went to bed, I would think about what I would eat, how much I'd eat, and when I would eat. It was my own secret hell. I'd make plans and promises, charts and graphs, I might keep it together for a while, but I would ultimately lose all control in a a big, shame-filled binge, all alone, at night, in front of the t.v. in hiding. My preferred method of purging was the abuse of laxatives. The next morning I would awake bloated and filled with self-loathing. Anyone who doesn't think food is a drug, should try being a bulimic for a while. Thank God that is all behind me!!! Really, THANK GOD! Wow, I haven't talked about this stuff in a looong time.
Anyway, the reason I bring it up today is that in beginning the procees of tapping and letting go of all preconceived notions about how and what I should do to lose these residual yo-yo 10+ pounds, I've really become aware of the last remaining vestiges of this addictive type of energy. My greatest challenge these days occurs for me at night with sugar.
What I've noticed is that although I can move through my day very neutral about food and body - eating sensible meals, making healthy choices easily, enjoying healthy food - when it comes to night time, a mysterious monster that lurks in my unconscious during the day takes over.
My usual ritual is to eat dinner, usually in front of the t.v. with my family. (Yes, I'm not proud to admit this. I wish I were one of those women who proudly created sit-down dinners for my family every night, but that's for another conversation...) We eat. We finish. And then "that thing" takes over. I must have my treats. I've gotten to the point that they are as healthy as possible - like no-sugar-added popsicles, sugar free popsicles or fruit. But I can get up anywhere from 4-8 times each night in search of something else to munch on. Having a full stomach has NOTHING to do with the decision making process. Finding a sense of fullness and satisfaction escapes me. And so, I've been tapping, tapping, tapping on this. I've tapped on statements like:
Even though I have to have night time treats, I absolutely love and accept myself.
Even though I can't imagine letting go of night time eating, I abolutely...
Even though just the thought of letting go of my treats makes me feel sad and empty, I asolutely..
Even though I'm addicted to sugar, I absolutely...
Even though I'm starved for something, but don't know what it is, I absolutely...
Even though I don't know how to do this, I absolutely...
Even though something takes over me and I don't know what it is, I absolutely....
Well, 3 out of the last 4 nights, the addiction energy has definitely felt lighter. Last nite I had to tap a lot, but this night, I tapped even before dinner, and I felt a noticeable diminishment in intensity.
I've also tapped regarding my inertia around physical activity and feeling unmotivated. I enjoyed some fun effortless walks and bike-rides in the last few days without making a big deal about it.
I've also tapped quite a bit on places I feel resistant around having the body I envision, letting myself, feeling like I'm not supposed to, recalling and tapping on memories from 8th grade where I compared myself to other girls and felt less than.
So, that's where I'm at for today. I look forward to getting started with Carol Look's Program.
More to follow.
Choose Your Reality!
Sonia
For more FREE resources and articles go to: www.SuccessForTheSoul.com
Sunday, August 5, 2007
EXPERIMENT: Losing Weight with Energy Healing
I am embarking on an experiment and anyone who cares to join me is welcome! Feel free to follow my journey here on my blog. I have purchased Carol Looks Weight Loss with EFT program and am going to use it for both personal and professional reasons: 1) As an energy healer, I'm always researching energy healing modalities to better serve my clients and 2) I have some residual food/body issues of my own that I'd love to heal once and for all.
As some of you may know, I was an active bulimic for quite a few years. I was a compulsive eater and was about 50 pounds overweight. Over the years I have experienced great healing. I read books, participated in classes, engaged in therapy and did various forms of energy work.
I lost the excess weight in a natural way and maintained it for years. It was smooth, happy sailing for quite a while. However, when I hit my mid 30's, and before, during and after pregnancy, things got bumpy again. Although I have maintained a healthy weight, I have not been completely happy with my body, I've resorted to diets and gained and lost the same 10 + pounds several times over. I've had this niggling feeling that I could be happier and more satisfied with my body, food, and exercise. It is as if I'm 90% there.
But recently I thought, "Why not REALLY give myself the gift of feeling completely healed of my food/body issues and be really in love with myself! So, after some contemplation, messages from the Universe, and research, I decided to purchase Carol Looks weightloss program http://www.carollook.com/.
My intention is to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique, a well-established healing modality) as my primary strategy in healing my issues and releasing permamanently the excess weight that comes and goes.
If there is anyone else out there who has either used the program or wants to join me on this journey, please share your experiences by posting comments here. I'd love to see this become a supportive resource for anyone who needs it.
Choose Your Reality! (I am!)
Sonia
For more FREE resources and articles, go to: http://www.successforthesoul.com/
As some of you may know, I was an active bulimic for quite a few years. I was a compulsive eater and was about 50 pounds overweight. Over the years I have experienced great healing. I read books, participated in classes, engaged in therapy and did various forms of energy work.
I lost the excess weight in a natural way and maintained it for years. It was smooth, happy sailing for quite a while. However, when I hit my mid 30's, and before, during and after pregnancy, things got bumpy again. Although I have maintained a healthy weight, I have not been completely happy with my body, I've resorted to diets and gained and lost the same 10 + pounds several times over. I've had this niggling feeling that I could be happier and more satisfied with my body, food, and exercise. It is as if I'm 90% there.
But recently I thought, "Why not REALLY give myself the gift of feeling completely healed of my food/body issues and be really in love with myself! So, after some contemplation, messages from the Universe, and research, I decided to purchase Carol Looks weightloss program http://www.carollook.com/.
My intention is to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique, a well-established healing modality) as my primary strategy in healing my issues and releasing permamanently the excess weight that comes and goes.
If there is anyone else out there who has either used the program or wants to join me on this journey, please share your experiences by posting comments here. I'd love to see this become a supportive resource for anyone who needs it.
Choose Your Reality! (I am!)
Sonia
For more FREE resources and articles, go to: http://www.successforthesoul.com/
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